The Plight of Sons With Narcissistic Mothers
Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
Very little has been written about the plight of sons with narcissistic mothers. That is grossly unfair to the thousands of men who suffer from this abuse. Perhaps it speaks to the assumption of society that as the “stronger sex,” men cannot be victimized. That misconception is very unfortunate because it deters many men who need help from getting it.
The experience I have with sons of narcissistic mothers was gained through my counseling work with them. I can assure you that the extent to which they can be broken and confused are equal to that of women—often worse.
Overcoming pain is not an easy thing for men to do. They have more difficulty than women do when it comes to expressing their feelings, and they are much harder on themselves, more self-censoring. Men tend to be less tolerant of their weaknesses and less patient of the healing process as well.
Maternal narcissist abuse runs very deeply in men. Without help, they suffer a lifetime of devastating emotional pain.
Sons of narcissistic mothers have a void inside that their mother’s love, encouragement, recognition, and validation should have filled. They lack the triumphant feeling and confidence in the success that Freud spoke of when he said, “If a man has been his mother’s undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it.”