Randi Fine's Blog

Family counseling is often seen as a path to healing—but for survivors of narcissistic abuse, it can be dangerous. Instead of resolution, it frequently leads to retraumatization, manipulation, and deeper invalidation. Learn why family therapy doesn’t work with narcissists, the risks involved, and how to find a safe, trauma-informed therapist who truly understands your healing journey.

Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints that can begin as early as the womb. From disrupted fetal coregulation to lifelong challenges with nervous system regulation, survivors often struggle with anxiety, self-esteem, and relationships. This post explores how maternal dysregulation impacts development and offers insight into pathways of healing for adult children of narcissistic abuse.

For pathologically enmeshed adult children, the thought of a parent’s illness or death can feel like facing their own. When identity and survival are tied so tightly to a parent, loss becomes an existential crisis. This post explores why that happens—and how healing is possible.

Emotional enmeshment is one of the most damaging yet overlooked forms of family dysfunction. Unlike obvious forms of abuse, it is often disguised as love, loyalty, or closeness.

Adult children of narcissistic abuse can learn about their past and heal from their past, but will never make sense of their past.

Narcissistic parents often manipulate their relationships with their children in ways that can leave deep emotional scars.

Emotional child abuse in narcissistic families is a criminal act of domestic abuse that goes largely unnoticed.

Narcissistic families are marked by a lack of empathy and a need for control. Steps toward freedom signify your strength and resilience.

Narcissistic mothers are not loving, comforting, protective, supportive or reliable. They are far from the idealized version of a mother.

The long term effects of narcissistic abuse sets children up for a lifetime of and a plethora of frustrating issues in adulthood.

Have you ever asked yourself, "What the @#$%? is wrong with my family"? Are you confused by the bizarre behavior of your family members?

The narcissistic family, unlike conventional families, are neither devoted nor cohesive. They are dictatorships; not democracies.

Very little has been written about the plight of sons with narcissistic mothers. That is grossly unfair to the thousands of men who suffer..

Emotional incest isn't just a concept; for sons of narcissistic maternal emotional incest it's a painful reality.

Twenty-five suggestions to help you be strategic in safeguarding yourself and aid you in managing the narcissist in your life.

This guide explores what causes family enmeshment, how to identify the signs, and its psychological consequences.

Adult children of narcissistic abuse can never confront their parents and get an admission, validation, or apology.

As a recognized authority on narcissistic abuse, Randi Fine addresses the question, "Do Narcissistic Parents Truly Love Their Children?"

a collection of satirical Mother's Day cards, for your enjoyment only, that humorously highlight the quirks of narcissistic mothers.