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Narcissistic Mothers: Destroying the Lives of Children Everywhere

Updated: Oct 27, 2022

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Narcissistic Mothers

Destroying the Lives of Children Everywhere

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

Narcissistic mothers are not loving, comforting, protective, supportive or reliable. They are as far from the idealized version of a mother as one can get.

Motherhood is supposed to be an instinctually selfless endeavor. Loving, nurturing and protecting another person are the right reasons to have children. Narcissistic mothers are motivated to procreate by self-centeredness, and the only instincts they have are self-satisfying ones.

One reason maternal narcissists create children is to reproduce their own images of perfection. Unattractive children, disabled children or children who for any reason reflect parts of the narcissistic mother she detests are considered insulting to her. But the primary reason narcissistic mothers give birth is to grow their narcissistic supply. Healthy infants and young children are considered guaranteed providers.

It is natural for babies and children to adore their mother. The narcissistic mother knows this and banks on it. Believing her children are her property, she expects the attention and adoration they supply to last a lifetime.

The narcissistic mother is a mother in title only. She does not really