Testimonials

"Caring, insightful, knowledgeable professional in dealing with high conflict, toxic and narcissist abuse situations."

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Doug G.

I highly recommend Randi Fine and her counseling services.  I had never heard of a narcissist and when I suspected I had married one, I was lost, anxious, confused and at my wits end. Divorce was the only viable option. I was in pain, confused, and emotionally beaten. I didn’t know what to do, how to act, or react, what my next step would be. I blamed myself for the failure of the marriage. Even simple decisions such as what food to buy were now difficult. Yes, it was that bad. Then, by chance, I discovered Randi Fine and her counsel. What a blessing! Randi listened, explained to me the in’s and out’s of this disorder and offered me sound and do-able advice for my survival and healing. So many times, her statements confirmed “Exactly” what I had experienced.  Randi has a calm and open approach which worked very well for me. She is knowledgeable, listens and provides sound advice and direction. No contact means no contact, it took a while for me to get it but it has finally sunk in! Randi’s  guidance and counsel have gotten me soundly on the road to my healing. Thank You Randi!

 

Heidi B., Attorney

Conventional therapy utterly failed me in dealing with my tattered emotional life wrought by a soulless individual with NPD.  I initially saw a therapist who told me to learn from my mistake and move on. That was not helpful at all. Not only did this advice set me up for failure, it deepened my sadness over the painful loss of the relationship. I'd expected the opposite from a professional, licensed therapist; one who is supposed to possess an in-depth understanding of the nature of narcissistic personality disorder, how if effects the individuals who suffer from it, and the impact it has on those who have been abused by them. One would expect a trained mental health professional to know that healing from this type of relationship is impossible with the kind of advice I was offered. Apparently my therapist did not. After that experience I was left with the only option I thought available: research and educate myself and try to work through my pain and confusion on my own.  Or so I thought . . .Then I met Randi Fine. Randi is truly a life-saver to victims of NPD such as myself. Ms. Fine has extraordinary insight into individuals with NPD and compassion for the victims left gutted and destroyed in their wake.  Her knowledge base is remarkable, her empathy unparalleled, and her advice invaluable.  If not for Randi Fine, I would not have been able to successfully recover from my experience with a narcissistic personality disordered individual.  She has taught me much about myself, and given me the tools and courage to move forward and avoid these predatory individuals in the future.  If not for Ms. Fine, I cannot imagine how long it would have taken me to recover from the emotional abuse I suffered.  Since working with Randi, I have successfully recovered from that relationship in much less time than I ever thought possible, and now I feel like my life has been given back to me.

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Robert H., Judge

I had struggled with depression from childhood. Twenty-four years ago, in my thirties, I got help and went through conventional therapy which significantly improved my life. But something still did not seem quite right. I found an article Randi had written on-line about the children of narcissists that described a lot of my experience growing up. I was hesitant at first to reach out to Randi, mostly because I felt that I had already gone through therapy and there was nothing else to discuss. I started talking to Randi in January 2021. I also read Randi's amazing book "Close Encounters of the Worst Kind," which explained so much of what I experienced as a child and what I struggled with as an adult. The chapter on empaths explained so much about me and the way I viewed the world and the people around me. A year later I have taken a giant leap forward in my emotional and mental health-I have never been happier. Randi's experience and insights have opened my eyes to the abuse I endured, but more importantly they have allowed me to shed so much pain, anguish and confusion.

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Regina S.

Randi is a blessing in my life. Because of her, I have hope. She is showing me that I am not as alone in this world as I think I am; that there are resources readily available in my journey of self-love and acceptance. Because of Randi, I have hope! I can actually see small changes that are making a big difference in my life and my confidence level has greatly increased. Words cannot express how much better I feel after speaking with Randi.  I am looking forward to starting to take care of myself and giving myself the things I so desperately looked outside of myself for. Her support and words of encouragement are medicine to my soul. Looking forward to seeing how my life will continue to evolve on the journey of self love, hope, and care.

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Christiana D., Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist

I came to Randi even after knowing for many years that my mother is a narcissist. It was a time of crisis however and I needed to be able to share my experience with someone who ‘gets it’ so that I would feel safe to talk about it. I was also looking for someone who would call out the narcissistic behaviours/manipulations on my behalf. So, despite all the knowledge I had gained already, here I was still feeling trapped and unable to escape from her. After listening to Randi in a ‘Fine time for Healing’ I discovered so many things I admired about her as a coach/therapist! Randi is fearless. She calls the BS out and she can call it out because she herself has had to do so in her own relationship with her mother. Randi is a life line for so many men and women like myself who are facing the reality of having had a narcissist in their lives. I find myself at a completely different place in my healing than when we first started. I am much more self-differentiated and able to trust my own gut on things. But most importantly, I am also more self-confident and, by extension, more authentically ‘me’. I am writing this testimonial in the hope that it will inspire others to take the plunge and work with Randi. She is an expert on the effects of narcissistic abuse and you couldn’t put your recovery in better hands. Randi works from experience, inner wisdom and the heart.

 

Michael L.

Randi is so phenomenally well versed and educated within the realms of dealing with different narcissist levels. Speaking with her during this divorce from a narcissist woman has given me a whole new insight as to how these people think and act. Her encouragement and direction is amazing. Every time I speak with her it gives me a good positive outlook on how to handle this divorce from a narcissist. Thank you so much Randi for your insight and encouragement! I couldn't make it through this without you!

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Paula G.

Randi Fine has been my lifesaver! She has unique personal and professional experience with thousands of clients who have experienced narcissistic abuse in a relationship. Narcissists intentionally manipulate and exploit every opportunity to shame you and skew the way you see yourself because that is the narcissist’s way of maintaining control and blaming the victim in order to continue to project the illusion that they are special and deserving people. These people also act in ways to tarnish you and make you appear defective to others so they can maintain their veneer of being a victim themselves. I tried 2-3 therapists while suffering through a horrific divorce from such a person and found no help because they failed to understand the tricks of a narcissist. It was obvious that your average therapist, not versed in narcissistic tactics, believe that you must be somehow to blame for what happened to you...and that really makes having a productive therapy relationship impossible. Randi UNDERSTANDS!! I ran across Randi’s book – “Close Encounters of the Worst Kind”- by accident. But when I read it, I said “WOW, this woman gets it”. Then I went to her website and found she offered individual help sessions! From our first session, she gave me insight, support, hope and real help with practical problems such as finding a good lawyer who understood parental alienation. She reached out and contacted other lawyers for me in order to “screen” whether they had the skills to help me through the legal battles with a narcissist. Most importantly, because she has “heard it all” from thousands of people around the world who have gone through your experience, she is able to strongly advise you and validate that you are not to blame. She is an encourager and a lifesaving resource! I owe my life to Randi for helping me through this horrific experience intact! I give her my highest recommendation. Working with those of us that are unfortunate enough to encounter a narcissist is not just a job to Randi, it is her calling and her gift. I recommend her to anyone without reservation.

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Kathryn D.

I found Randi Fine's website online when I was in a moment of despair 4 years ago. I read her articles and listened to her radio show religiously for a while. A light bulb went off for me that I was married to a narcissist for over 15 years and I couldn't believe it. BUT my life and my marriage finally made sense! Everything Randi writes about and says in her books was exactly my situation and the man I was married to was exactly the person she described. From how he talked to me, how he treated me, his general behavior, and how he treated our kids...the list goes on and on. Also, my symptoms of narcissistic abuse were everything she talks about. I set up counseling sessions with Randi and she helped me through the twists and turns of my divorce. She gave me sound advice on how to handle things, some of which was counterintuitive to what you would do in a "normal" divorce! She cheered me on, validated my thoughts and feelings, and understood what was happening to me. She helped me to stay strong and get through it! I continued to talk with her regularly for a couple of years. Now I set up a call with her when I need a boost, as I feel I am SO much stronger and have come so far. I am very happy with who I am and how I am continuing the healing process! Thank you Randi! :)

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Bill

Last night I listened to you on an old podcast. You hadn’t published your latest book yet and some female psychiatrist was interviewing you. I almost stopped my truck on the highway when I heard what you said about NPD. I’m a big guy and a tough guy but when you described victims of NPD as being like hosts to a parasite my eyes got wet. I know I am in a marriage with one of these people. It’s affected our children. I’ve been married for 26 years and I’ve been struggling for probably 22. Also, now looking back, my parents were probably narcissistic too. I began working in the oil fields 7 years ago, 1,100 miles from home, to solve my money problems. I think I also did it to get away from the constant sucking away of my life blood. Being seen and validated by Randi was priceless. I am often in spaces where people do not understand what it means to have a mother who doesn't care. Speaking with Randi was so good as she knows what it feels like and that was exactly what I needed.

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Pamela S

I've spent countless hours in therapy with people who I felt never understood what I was going through. It was fate that brought me to Randi, who specializes in narcissistic abuse. I finally had a name for what I was dealing with. Talking to Randi made me realize that I'm not crazy and that the only way to break the cycle of abuse is to leave and go no contact. For years, I wondered what was wrong with me. Randi made me see what was wrong was this toxic person in my life -- and that I could be stronger without him in it.

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Sarah

Its hard to know where to start but I’ll start by saying you have completely changed my life. I came across your podcasts about 2 years ago and when I started to listen to them I was blown away by the fact that it seemed like you were describing my mum and her behaviour, without having ever met her. From the moment I started listening to you my life changed. It was so nice to hear you speak the truth and not sugar coat anything. You tell it how it is and how bad these people really are and that there is no hope of change for them. This was initially a hard pill to swallow but after years and years of narcissistic abuse from my mum I knew deep down that you were right. I had tried everything that was humanly possible to change the unhealthy relationship I had with my

mum and then slowly realising blow after blow that this relationship was never going to improve. I first went little contact but of course that didn’t work until i finally went no contact. This was the hardest but one of the best decisions I have ever made. No longer was she constantly in my head and consuming every single part of my life in a negative way. I was finally feeling the freedom of having her out of my life. No drama. No criticism. No second guessing and the list goes on. The amazing thing about your podcast is that when I was feeling low and second guessing myself I had a kind, educated and helpful person to listen to. You will never really know the extent to how you have helped me through the really dark times and I will forever be grateful to you for sharing your story and knowledge with us. I want to thank you again for your ongoing, ground breaking and amazing work bringing narcissistic abuse to the masses through your podcast. It is such a complicated web that we are in when we have to deal with these people and having you as my guide through this journey has been life changing.

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Antonio T., Attorney

Randi Fine is an expert in her field. She shared the latest information and research throughout her conversation with me. It was very helpful and just what I needed. Absolute par excellence! She shares wonderful insight and understands the unique and universal issues that come along with personal development, counseling and life

coaching issues. She is personable, accommodating to schedule, knowledgeable and authentic. I enjoyed speaking to her greatly. Thanks Randi!

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M.U.

I am so grateful for my session with Randi. I have been in a confusing abusive marriage and finally there was someone who could see with clarity what I was going through. She not only validated my pain, but offered clear direction as to what the problem was and how I could begin moving forward to become the whole healthy individual I was meant to be. I look forward to working more with her so that I can continue the process of growing and healing. Randi gave me help and hope. 

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P.A.

When a friend of mine said that I needed to connect with Randi Fine I wasn't sure what to expect. After Randi and I spoke on the phone there was only one expectation, that I was entering un-chartered territories where my life was going to drastically change. I cannot express how much that one phone call has and is changing my life. When you come to know the truth that truth will set you free—it has for me. Thank you Randi.

 

L.G.

Randi Fine is one of the most real, honest, intelligent, and caring people I have come across. She has the capacity to listen, understand, and give excellent direction on how to heal from past pain, and live in the present. Randi knows and understands narcissism;how it affects the children of narcissistic parents, how it affects all relationships, and most of all she has solutions for those wanting to go from 'victim' or 'victor’. I recommend her services to anyone suffering at the hands of a narcissist—it’s the best help I have ever received. She is knowledgeable and knows how to counsel. What a great mix. 

 

J.E.

Randi is extremely knowledgeable in understanding and dealing with Narcissistic

Personality abuse issues. She asks great questions to really make you stop and think

about why you're feeling what you're feeling, which was such a huge help in making

sense of the emotions I am struggling to deal with. She can fully understand and relate to

what you share with her, which is so refreshing as most people I have spoken to do not

comprehend the depth involved in this type of parental abuse. Thank-you!

 

L.B.

Randi gave me so much clarity in my situation by hearing my story, going over the issues, and educating me. She is a true inspiration and the hope I was desperately searching for. I recommend her to anyone dealing with effects of NPD abuse.

 

S.N.

Randi helped me understand what was going on with my daughter after my Narcissistic

husband poisoned her mind. Randi was right on with her advice. Within two days my

daughter and I were back to our normal healthy relationship. Randi provides wise advice

when dealing with a Narcissistic partner. 

 

A.B.

I feel very blessed to have found someone to talk to that understands what I've been through. I have faith that Randi will be able to equip me with the knowledge and the tools to overcome my past and end the cycle of dysfunction for my own family. I would definitely recommend Randi to anyone in need of counseling—very compassionate lady.

 

P.B.

Randi was amazing!! She helped me to make sense of the last 20 years in one phone call!! She was compassionate and understanding! Just incredible! 

 

T.

Randi is absolutely amazing, very easy to talk to, a great listener & understands trauma and the complexity of it. She is excellent at what she does & Honestly I cannot say enough great things about her council. I felt better after our first session & I feel blessed that I am working with her.

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L

Randi is one of the most real, honest, intelligent, and caring people I have come across. She has the capacity to listen, understand, and give excellent direction on how to heal from past pain, and live in the present.

 

J.

You don't know me but I feel like I know you. Your voice is a regular part of my daily life and your words of wisdom have helped guide me through the worst time in my life. I emailed you a while back when I had just been discarded by my narc sociopath and was losing my will to live. I was, in the blink of an eye, a single mother fleeing for my life and living in a tornado of madness! I lost my home, my dog, my cat, my family, and myself. My narc was divorcing me and trying to financially ruin me among many other things. I am happy to report that my divorce is over and the light has prevailed. The judge saw the injustice and demanded the narc provide me a settlement. I feel like in some way you helped make that possible by preparing me and arming me with the tools I needed to fight the good fight grey rock style. And I also see the world waking up to the tactics of these soulless monsters and fighting back. Its all really good stuff! So basically this email is just a giant thank you! THANK YOU A MILLION TIMES FOR ALL YOU DO! Now...off to read your book :)

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G.

Many thanks for all you do to encourage and inspire us survivors to live our lives to the fullest in spite of our painful and traumatic journeys.  I recently came across your radio show and you have done such a beautiful job of exposing this disorder that is so damaging and stigmatizing to those of us who had to unfortunately walk this path.  I still have a lot of healing to do. I lost some many years of my life of the abuse I experienced as a vulnerable child.  Thank you again for creating awareness and give me hope that I overcome this hurtful legacy.  

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T

Thanks for your great work on narcissists abuse. I went through this bad experience and I decided to move forward with my life. I read some great articles on your website and about your book. As you said, it is important to be very careful in dating. Agree. I am probably too careful (even though I am a risks taker in my life in general) because I lost the motivation to date. I want to avoid toxic people. "Better to travel alone than to travel with a fool" as an author said. Thank you so much for your great work.

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M.

I just wanted to say that I really valued your book. I’m the eldest child of a highly dysfunctional family in which BPD and NPD have wreaked emotional havoc. I’ve been on a personal journey of discovery and recovery for some time and your points on healing in particular are very helpful - thank you.

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G.

I would like to start off saying thank you for the videos you have posted on YouTube. I am very new into my recovery and just recently discovered my abuse was due to my narcissistic mother. Just learning upon this, I went to YouTube and listen to your 6 part videos and felt in awe to hear the familiarity. I finally was able to make sense of my mother and my enabling father. I want to say THANK YOU. This has opened my eyes and I finally feel understood or I can finally understand myself. You have made a difference in my life and many others with this information.

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M.

You are my role model for being strong, assertive and healing from your experience with an NPD parent and now sharing your knowledge with others. You are a savior. You have changed my life by shedding light on the NPD abuse syndrome and emphasizing over and over that I need to prioritize myself first.  

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S.

Thanks for all you support. I remember it was Christmas 2016 when I listened to you on my drive to see my mom. You were a God send to me and so many others. Thank you.

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E.

I came across your site whilst googling narcissistic abuse recovery and have just finished listening to your podcast describing narcissistic victim syndrome. Firstly I'd like to say thank you for being there! It's such a relief listening to someone who understands what is happening!

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E.

Thank you so much for your YouTube channel and the very extensive material you provided about narcissist parents and more specifically about narcissist mothers. Thanks to you, a massive light bulb just went off in my head after years of confusion and lack of clarity as to why I had such mixed feelings about my mother.

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K.

Thank you so much for your podcast! I need to hear everything that you're saying so badly. It brings me to tears sometimes. Someone understands!

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C.

I am a regular listener of your show and have been for quite some time now. Thanks Randi for the shows they truly are so helpful knowing I'm not alone in this. Whenever I hear you talk about this stuff it's like your living in my house seeing it with me. The patterns of behavior in these types of people is remarkable. I'm still unable to grasp that human beings can really be this cruel.

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D.

I stumbled on to your interview on the Mental Heath News Radio podcast from September 2, 2015 and was completely gobsmacked and moved to tears.  There are so many differences in our stories, but so many similarities.

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D.

I had to reach out to tell you how important your podcast on Mental Health Radio is to me...I know that I am listening a year and change late, but nonetheless... THANK YOU! I need to go find more of your podcasts :)

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A.

I have listened to you for years but am finally healed enough to have emotional distance and conscious reflection to work with you without unhealthy neediness. Many just do not understand the deep-seated sensitivities that are experienced with this type of abuse. So in addition to my request, I wanted to thank you for the validation and encouragement.

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D.

Randi THANK YOU for my new favorite podcast. I love your radio program and your light.

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G.

Hi Randi, I got your book and I am still reading. Thank you so much for all your hard work and research in writing this book.  FYI, I am so happy to see your well written blog post on why traditional therapy does not work.  I saw a comment on Amazon from a counselor that said you were not qualified to write this book and nothing could be further from the truth. Thank you for responding. I hope the counselor reads this. I plan to post a book review as a way of saying thank you. 

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S.

I am going to order your book, and read with anticipation, I love listening to your words of explanation about what is happening and hope that I can help myself further. With reading and listening to your words I know my husband has a narcissistic personality disorder and it isn’t my fault. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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B.

Last night I listened to you on an old podcast. You hadn’t published your latest book yet and some female psychiatrist was interviewing you. I almost stopped my truck on the highway when I heard what you said about NPD. I’m a big guy and a tough guy but when you described victims of NPD as being like hosts to a parasite my eyes got wet.

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L

Thank you so much for your podcast I can’t tell you how spot on and correct you are. My history is rewritten and a year of parental alienation. I am hoping and will never relent for my youngest daughter 14 to visit me. Thank you so much

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P.

I just read your book, and it really helped me pull things together and understand a number of pieces that I’ve been processing for years. I wrote you a 5-star review and I’m hoping you can meet me for the free 30-minute appointment. I must say that I would have written a 5-star review either way, as I really did find the book excellent.

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R.

Being seen and validated by Randi was priceless. I am often in spaces where people do not understand what it means to have a mother who doesn't care. Speaking with Randi was so good as she knows what it feels like and that was exactly what I needed.

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