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Family counseling is often seen as a path to healing—but for survivors of narcissistic abuse, it can be dangerous. Instead of resolution, it frequently leads to retraumatization, manipulation, and deeper invalidation. Learn why family therapy doesn’t work with narcissists, the risks involved, and how to find a safe, trauma-informed therapist who truly understands your healing journey.

Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints that can begin as early as the womb. From disrupted fetal coregulation to lifelong challenges with nervous system regulation, survivors often struggle with anxiety, self-esteem, and relationships. This post explores how maternal dysregulation impacts development and offers insight into pathways of healing for adult children of narcissistic abuse.

For pathologically enmeshed adult children, the thought of a parent’s illness or death can feel like facing their own. When identity and survival are tied so tightly to a parent, loss becomes an existential crisis. This post explores why that happens—and how healing is possible.

Emotional enmeshment is one of the most damaging yet overlooked forms of family dysfunction. Unlike obvious forms of abuse, it is often disguised as love, loyalty, or closeness.

Trauma can echo through generations, but recovery is possible. Explore ways to heal, build resilience, and create a healthier future.

Unlike those without BPD, who often see gray areas in their thoughts and feelings, individuals with BPD experience an all-or-nothing mindset

Many lifetime burdens are placed on children growing up in narcissistic families. The roles placed on them cause a lifetime of problems.

Exploring the question many ask: what causes narcissistic personality disorder, and if good parents can raise children who develop it?

Narcissistic parents often manipulate their relationships with their children in ways that can leave deep emotional scars.

Emotional child abuse in narcissistic families is a criminal act of domestic abuse that goes largely unnoticed.

Narcissistic families are marked by a lack of empathy and a need for control. Steps toward freedom signify your strength and resilience.

Learn how to deal with narcissists by watching their strategies and using them, ultimately helping you take control back in your life.

This post examines twelve excuses frequently used to justify staying in abusive, narcissistic relationships.

We cannot fool ourselves into thinking that children will do as we say, not as we do. Our actions speak volumes louder than our words.

Narcissistic hoovering is a common manipulation tactic used by individuals with NPD to regain control over those they’ve distanced from.

Narcissistic mothers are not loving, comforting, protective, supportive or reliable. They are far from the idealized version of a mother.

A compassionate and compelling perspective, one not commonly considered, to help targeted parents cope with difficult emotions and guilt.

The long term effects of narcissistic abuse sets children up for a lifetime of and a plethora of frustrating issues in adulthood.

Have you ever asked yourself, "What the @#$%? is wrong with my family"? Are you confused by the bizarre behavior of your family members?

Are you an survivor of abuse who cannot let your resentments go without first confronting your narcissistic abuser? Ten things to know.