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Stop Tolerating Toxic Behavior

Updated: Oct 30, 2022

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Stop Tolerating Toxic Behavior

Written by Randi Fine , Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

There is no virtue in the tolerance of toxic behavior.” ~Dr. Phil McGraw

Do you want to stop tolerating toxic behavior from narcissists and other people in your life, but are unsure how to break the pattern you are stuck in? If so, you are not alone.

Narcissistic abuse victims often tell me that they cannot understand how someone could treat them, such kind, understanding, accepting, and generous people, so badly. My answer is a simple one. Those with narcissistic personality disorder never target people who are unkind, disagreeable, intolerant and selfish. Why would they? There is no supply there.

Being kind, understanding, loyal, accepting, and generous are wonderful virtues to have. Those qualities make you the special person you are. Just understand that those virtues can become detrimental to your happiness when offered to those who wish to exploit, use, and abuse you. You must learn to be discriminatory.

It would be wonderful to live in a world where everyone has goodness within them; where everyone has redeemable qualities. Unfortunately that is not the nature of the world we live in. There are millions of people walking this earth who, for whatever reason, do not possess the emotional response of affective empathy, and who exhibit predatory behavior. These people are masters of disguise. For the sake of survival they must adapt and blend in.

Imagine what it would be like to study human behavior every moment of every day for decades. The only possible outcome would be mastery. That is what makes the behavior of