The Narcissist's Dating Game
Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
Disclaimer: Though the abuser in this article is referred to with male pronouns and the abused with female pronouns, in no way is the author insinuating that narcissists are predominately male and that those they abuse are predominately female. That is entirely untrue.
Narcissists do not have what it takes to build successful relationships. Ruled by diabolical minds, they see others as their extensions rather than separate individuals with independent thoughts, desires, and needs.
Narcissists are not capable of the compromise and compassion that must exist in partnerships, are devoid of empathy, and are completely self-centered. A romantic conquest is chosen by the narcissist for only one reason; to meet his needs. True reciprocity will never exist. They may become companions but there will never be an actual partnership.
A great deal of heartache could be avoided if we knew what we were up against from the start. But if we never experienced this kind of relationship before or do not have a working knowledge of the narcissistic mind, we cannot possibly know how to avoid it.
When two people are first attracted to each other, a powerful chemistry occurs. They feel giddy, delirious, and euphoric. The magnetism between them is powerful, passionate and lustful. Caught up in this whirlwind of emotions, differences are not weighed and logic is absent.
This period of what feels like true love is called the “infatuation” or “Honeymoon Stage.”