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Parental Alienation: When Children Are Turned Against the Loving Parent

Updated: Oct 27, 2022

mother in green sweater suffering parental alienation

Parental Alienation

When Children Are Turned Against the Loving Parent

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

The most heartbreaking work I do is helping parental alienation victims; desperate parents whose children have been turned against them by a vindictive narcissistic ex-partner.

These loving parents feel helpless when the children they loved and nurtured, dedicated their lives to, are suddenly alienated from them. Sadly, they have every reason to feel the way they do. Parental alienation is part of the narcissistic smear campaign that survivors cannot control, mitigate, or stop no matter what they do.

One must understand the workings of the narcissistic mind in order to understand how something such as this can possibly happen.

Narcissists capture people and take them hostage. We call these associations “relationships.” Hostages are considered the narcissist’s property. These people are then objectified and dehumanized in order to justify, in the narcissist's warped mind, the campaign of abuse he will use to hold them psychological /emotional captives. This guarantees the narcissist a reliable source of narcissistic supply that will entertain him and keep him emotionally fed.

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