Codependency in Relationships Quiz: Discover if You Have Codependent Patterns
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Codependency in Relationships Quiz
Discover if You Have Codependent Patterns
Written by Narcissistic Abuse Expert and Recovery Coach Randi Fine
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
Introduction
Do you often put others’ needs before your own? Do you feel responsible for other people’s emotions or happiness? Do you find yourself giving endlessly in relationships, even when it leaves you drained?
If these questions resonate with you, you may be experiencing codependency in relationships — a pattern of behavior that can quietly shape your emotional well-being and sense of self.
Codependency isn’t about weakness; it’s about survival patterns learned long ago. The good news? Awareness is the first step toward healing.
Take this Codependency in Relationships Quiz to explore your emotional patterns, gain clarity, and take your first step toward healthier, more balanced love.
🌿 How to Take the Quiz
Answer each of the 20 questions honestly with Yes or No.There are no right or wrong answers — this is a self-awareness tool designed to help you understand your relationship dynamics.
🧭 The Codependency in Relationships Quiz
Do you often put others’ needs and feelings before your own?
Are you drawn to emotionally unavailable or unstable partners?
Do you feel a compulsive need to fix or rescue others?
Do you focus on someone’s potential rather than who they are right now?
Do you believe your relationship will improve once your partner changes?
Do you feel anxious or incomplete when you’re not in a relationship?
Do you feel guilty when setting boundaries or saying no?
Do you people-please to gain approval or love?
Did you grow up around anger, control, or emotional neglect?
Were you raised in a home where addiction was present?
Do you make excuses for other people’s bad behavior?
Have you stayed in painful or one-sided relationships?
Do you believe you must earn love through effort or sacrifice?
Do you struggle to accept love or compliments without discomfort?
Do you feel responsible for other people’s moods or happiness?
Do you tend to hide your struggles from others?
Do you find it difficult to express your needs or ask for help?
Do you feel empty or worthless without someone to care for?
Is it hard for you to trust healthy, stable love?
Do you often do things for others that they could easily do themselves?
Scoring
Give yourself 1 point for every “Yes.”
🌼 0–5 points: Healthy Boundaries
You have a strong sense of independence and emotional balance. You value relationships but know how to honor your own needs. Keep nurturing your boundaries and self-awareness — they’re the foundation of healthy love.
🌤️ 6–10 points: Growing Awareness
You may have some codependent tendencies, like over-giving or people-pleasing. You’re becoming more aware of your patterns, which is the key to change. With small, consistent shifts, you can create more balance in your connections.
🌧️ 11–15 points: Moderate Codependency
You often feel responsible for others’ emotions and may prioritize their needs over your own. You likely attract relationships that drain you emotionally. Healing is possible through boundary work, inner child healing, and guided self-compassion.
⛈️ 16–20 points: High Codependency
You may feel trapped in painful or one-sided relationships. You might confuse caretaking with love and find it hard to focus on yourself. Remember — these patterns come from learned survival mechanisms, not weakness. With support and awareness, you can heal and build healthy, mutual love.
💬 What to Do Next
Recognizing your codependency in relationships is an empowering step toward freedom. Healing these patterns helps you reconnect with your true self — the part of you that deserves unconditional love, peace, and emotional safety.
You don’t have to do it alone. I specialize in helping individuals heal from codependency and narcissistic abuse, guiding them toward wholeness and self-empowerment.
🌟 Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey?
Take what you’ve learned today and use it as your foundation for growth and self-discovery.
Randi Fine is an internationally renowned narcissistic abuse expert and recovery coach, and the originator of the term Post-Narcissistic Reality Hangover - a phrase she coined to describe the disorienting psychological aftermath survivors experience after leaving a narcissist. She is the author of the best-selling, groundbreaking book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery Second Edition - the most comprehensive, well-researched, and up-to-date book on this subject. In addition to helping survivors recognize and heal from abuse, this book also guides mental health professionals in identifying and properly treating narcissistic abuse syndrome. Randi is the author of the official companion workbook Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: A Comprehensive Workbook for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse, and the powerful memoir Cliffedge Road: A Memoir, the first and only book to illustrate the life-long impact of narcissistic child abuse.