Randi Fine's Blog

In the age of online “honesty,” the self-proclaimed narcissist appears self-aware—but it’s all performance. Their confessions aren’t about healing; they’re about control. By presenting manipulation as vulnerability, they gain admiration while keeping power. True accountability is quiet and humble—never a show designed to confuse, charm, or control.

Many survivors struggle with the fear of getting help after narcissistic abuse. You may feel you should handle it alone, or worry no one could understand. That hesitation is natural — a protective response. But what once kept you safe can now hold you back. Even one small step toward support can help you rebuild trust, reclaim your voice, and move toward healing, clarity, and emotional freedom.

Family counseling is often seen as a path to healing—but for survivors of narcissistic abuse, it can be dangerous. Instead of resolution, it frequently leads to retraumatization, manipulation, and deeper invalidation. Learn why family therapy doesn’t work with narcissists, the risks involved, and how to find a safe, trauma-informed therapist who truly understands your healing journey.

The fear of being a narcissist after abuse is very common among survivors, but it’s actually proof you are not a narcissist. Narcissists lack self-reflection and empathy, while survivors worry about their impact on others, feel guilt, and strive to do better. This self-awareness shows compassion, not narcissism.

Many survivors struggle to understand why they justify narcissistic abuse, especially when it comes from someone they love. It can feel confusing to find yourself defending or excusing an abuser's behavior, or minimizing the harm. The truth is, this tendency is not a personal weakness—it’s a natural trauma response.

In the early stages of a new relationship, many people find themselves wondering: should I give my trust freely, or wait until it’s earned? This is not just a practical question—it’s also an emotional one. When we long for closeness, it’s tempting to open our hearts quickly. But doing so without thought can lead to disappointment or even harm.