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What Lies Are You Telling Yourself

What Lies Are You Telling Yourself

Recognizing and Changing Your Internal Dialogue

Written by Randi Fine

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

What lies are you telling yourself? Are you telling yourself that you are not good enough, not worthy of love, that something must be wrong with you, that you must accept suffering, that you are innately flawed?

Each of us has a subconscious inner voice, called an “internal dialogue,” that strongly influences our life. Since it has always been such a consistent part of our waking lives, most of us do not even realize it is there.

Our internal dialogue controls everything we do. It shapes our perception, makes decisions for us, cautions us, forms our values and opinions, tells us who we are and what we like, monitors our behavior, evaluates situations, and makes judgments.

When our internal dialogue is positive, it empowers us. When it is negative it discourages us. Negative dialogue forms limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs can come from powerful outside influences such as parents, religions, families, educators, culture, media, and society. They can also develop on their own after repeated exposure to stimuli, or as a result of trauma or abuse.

Limiting beliefs sabotage our lives. They tell us untruths and lies, make us feel bad about ourselves, impede our success, and cause us to repe