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Spiritual Narcissistic Abuse

Updated: Oct 28, 2022

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Spiritual Narcissistic Abuse

Manipulation Through the Fear of Spiritual/Religious Non-Compliance

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

One control method used by some narcissists, but not often talked about, is known as spiritual narcissistic abuse. As is true with other cunning abuse tactics, those who experience spiritual narcissistic abuse may not even realize what is happening to them.

People find great comfort in spirituality and religion. It gives structure and meaning to their lives. In difficult times faith provides a soft, safe place to land.

Faith is personal and different for each of us. We each develop it in our own way and in our own time. No one has the right to judge others for their beliefs or lack of them.

Narcissists don’t care about the rights of others. They only care about taking control of others’ lives and will stoop to any level in that pursuit.

Narcissistic spiritual abuse attacks people at the place where they are most vulnerable, the heart of the very thing that gives them ease. The faith and hope that lifts them up and gives their life meaning is viciously snuffed out and replaced by fear, guilt, and shame.

Those who follow religion, live in accordance to the doctrines of their faith. Because of the way these doctrines are written, much of the teachings found within them are open for interpretation. That is a loophole narcissistic opportunists may see and use to their advantage.