Randi Fine's Blog

Being told to “just move on” after narcissistic abuse often causes more harm than healing. Narcissistic abuse recovery involves unwinding psychological conditioning and nervous system survival responses that do not end when the relationship does. Feeling disoriented, unsettled, or overwhelmed after leaving is not failure. It is your system releasing what it held together to survive.

Self-compassion after narcissistic abuse is essential for healing. This article explores how emotional abuse trains survivors to self-blame, why compassion can feel difficult at first, and how rebuilding kindness toward yourself restores internal safety, self-trust, and emotional regulation. Healing begins when you stop treating yourself like the problem.

Many survivors struggle with the fear of getting help after narcissistic abuse. You may feel you should handle it alone, or worry no one could understand. That hesitation is natural — a protective response. But what once kept you safe can now hold you back. Even one small step toward support can help you rebuild trust, reclaim your voice, and move toward healing, clarity, and emotional freedom.