Randi Fine's Blog

Being told to “just move on” after narcissistic abuse often causes more harm than healing. Narcissistic abuse recovery involves unwinding psychological conditioning and nervous system survival responses that do not end when the relationship does. Feeling disoriented, unsettled, or overwhelmed after leaving is not failure. It is your system releasing what it held together to survive.

Many survivors struggle to understand why they justify narcissistic abuse, especially when it comes from someone they love. It can feel confusing to find yourself defending or excusing an abuser's behavior, or minimizing the harm. The truth is, this tendency is not a personal weakness—it’s a natural trauma response.

The journey to recovery from narcissist abuse is often marked by frustration. Healing is rarely a straight path, trapped in survival mode.

If you've been diagnosed as bipolar, it might be worth exploring the possibility that you could actually be a victim of narcissistic abuse.

Are you an adult survivor of narcissistic abuse who suffers from chronic overachieving? Are you never satisfied with your accomplishments?