Randi Fine's Blog

Many survivors try to beat a narcissist at their own game, hoping for fairness, clarity, or relief. But narcissistic dynamics aren’t won through confrontation. Real leverage comes from stepping out of the game, reducing volatility, and choosing strategy over reaction. This shift brings clarity, containment, and the return of emotional stability.

Trying to reason with a narcissist often leaves you feeling more confused than before. This article explores why logic doesn’t work with narcissists, how manipulation bypasses rational thinking, and why your exhaustion is not a failure, but a sign of a toxic dynamic.

Standing up to a narcissist often makes things worse, not because you are wrong, but because the dynamic itself is unfair. In narcissistic relationships, confrontation threatens control rather than encouraging reflection. This article explains why reasonable efforts to set boundaries or seek accountability often escalate conflict and how disengagement protects your emotional safety.