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Why Do We Stay With Our Narcissistic Abuser?

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Why It Is So Hard To Leave An Intimate Relationship With A Narcissist?

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

There are several reasons why we stay with our narcissistic abuser; why it is so hard to leave a toxic intimate relationship with one. In this article I will discuss the eight most common reasons.

1. Our Brains are Chemically Addicted to Them

In the honeymoon phase of the relationship the excitement of "finding the perfect partner"and the powerful chemistry that often includes amazing sex causes the "feel-good" hormones Oxytocin and Dopamine to flood our brains. This does not happen accidentally. It is a deliberate tactic used by narcissists to get our brains chemically addicted to them.

When that pivotal moment happens where everything changes and suddenly you can’t do anything right, say anything right, and you are always being put down, you get confused. You crave the high you felt with the person and try to get it back. Believing that person honestly represented herself and was sincere in the feelings she expressed to you, your logical mind tells you, “I know that perfect person existed. Maybe if I try this, maybe if I do that, sh