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Twenty Strategies to Use With Your Narcissistic Abuser

Updated: Nov 10, 2022


Twenty Strategies to Use With Your Narcissistic Abuser

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert and Coach

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

If you are looking for someone to fulfill your needs, give you support, and appreciate the best you have to offer, don’t rely on your narcissistic abuser. Narcissists are emotionally limited and possess no ability to empathize with you. They will never be who you want them to be. The sooner you can accept this fact, the better off you will be.

You have probably seen glimpses of that ideal person in your narcissist and told yourself that there must be a good person somewhere inside of her, that there is always hope she might change. Since the narcissist is human you will catch glimpses of humanity, but never empathy. Be careful not to allow these brief emanations of kindness to fool you into believing in the narcissist’s potential. A narcissist is only nice and kind if there is some personal gain for being so. Forget about potential. What you see is what you get.

Following are tips to help you manage the narcissist in your life. You must strategize to protect yourself just as diligently as your abuser strategizes to abuse you:

  1. Stay emotionally distant. If you continue to live with the narcissist do not share any of your feelings or emotions with him. Be guarded. Do not let him see you get upset. Do not try to rationalize with him. He sees these things as weaknesses and will use them against you. If you are physically removed from the narcissist, the same applies, but it may be easier to do.