Toxic Emotions
Are They Controlling Your Life?
Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Experts
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
Many of the feelings that interfere with our lives today, our negative emotional responses, are buried, toxic emotions that have little to do with what is occurring in the present. They stem from painful childhood memories that lie deep inside of us, ones that have yet to be faced and dealt with.
When these memories are subconsciously triggered, all rationality goes out the window. We become hypersensitive, rigid, irrational, and insecure; out of control, emotional wrecks. We may think we know why we are reacting the way we are, though we seldom do. We think we are reacting to something that was said or done in the present, but we are not. We are reacting to our pain from the past.
Triggers bring the pain of our past to the surface for a very specific reason. Our bodies don’t want the toxic feelings imprisoned in them anymore. They use every opportunity to plead with us, “Examine your pain, feel it, and then please set it free. We don’t want to hurt anymore.”
That isn’t easily accomplished. It may be difficult for us to find words for the emotional reactions that go on inside and come out of us. We know that we feel upset, unbalanced, uncomfortable, or even cut off from our emotions, but we don’t know why. That lack of understanding is a result of having been conditioned to bury our most uncomfortable feelings – to remain calm and to show our happy face to the world. We have been told that it is not acceptable to express our emotions - that it is a sign of weakness.
Our emotions embarrass us. We fear that others will judge or reject us for displaying them, and we don’t want to hurt or upset anyone wh