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Ten Tips for Surviving the Holidays After Narcissistic Abuse


Surviving the Holidays After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

Surviving the holidays after choosing to go “no contact” with a narcissistic family member or relationship can be very difficult.

Survivors do not want to separate from their family members and relationships or become outcasts. They try over and over, year after year, to mend these toxic relationships, hoping each time things will be different, but it never is. The choice to go no contact becomes a matter of survival. That choice can be especially challenging during the holiday season.

Many survivors experience a sense of dread and feelings of profound loneliness as the holidays approach. They mourn the family or relationship they thought or wish they had. They feel lost without the deeply ingrained traditions they’ve associated with the holidays for many years. And they agonize at the thought of being left out of the gatherings and traditions that continue without them.

The post-abuse holiday blues are real but they don’t last forever. In the meantime, here are ten great tips to help you survive and thrive through it all: