Recognizing Your Codependent Tendencies
From the Website Night Vision for Women
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
Your healing begins once you recognize and acknowledge your codependent tendencies. This list illuminates the pain and self esteem issues of someone who has those tendencies:
My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.
My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you
Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems/relieving your pain.
My mental attention is focused on you.
My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
My mental attention is focused on manipulating you to do it my way.
My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
My own hobbies/interests are