Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert
Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine
My most important mission in life was to raise emotionally healthy children—children who were not saddled with emotional baggage that hindered their ability to blossom, grow, and soar. I was ready and willing to do anything to assure their success in life.
Because of the tumultuous childhood I endured it took decades of hard work for me to achieve emotional stability. I share this fact, not with the intention of blaming or claiming the role of victim, but primarily because the point of this article is to emphasize the dire importance of positive parenting and healthy influences in our developing years. Influential adults, whether by action, or spoken word followed by action, are the implements that write the story of a child’s future.
Everyone suffers adversity; everyone stumbles. No one escapes life without bumps and bruises. We develop coping skills, crucially needed to navigate through life, through the challenges that are frequently placed before us. It is through all these mechanisms that we develop, learn, and grow—become better human beings and achieve personal growth. All the positive aspects of life, such as love, hope, and faith, would not exist without it.
Our children will encounter many hurdles throughout their adult lives; that is a given. It is our responsibility to prepare them for life, through positive parenting by giving them the strategies needed to jump those hurdles—to overcome obstacles, persevere, and thrive. Children must be taught through gentle lessons and shown by age appropriate, comprehensible examples that life will not always go the way they want it to. They need to experience the processes of failure and disappointment and see that the end result is often better than what they originally hoped for.