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Optimal Emotional Wellness: Why Isn't Everyone Experiencing It?

Updated: Oct 26, 2022

Optimal Emotional Wellness

Why Isn't Everyone Experiencing It?

Written by Randi Fine

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

With the vast amount of self-help wisdom available to us, why isn't everyone experiencing optimal emotional wellness?.

Are you frustrated with trying so hard to help yourself but getting nowhere? Are you feeling hopeless and defeated after having read hundreds of self-help articles and books, listened to podcast after podcast, and watched endless YouTube videos?

Self-improvement advice on virtually any topic, written from endless points of views, is right at our fingertips. A simple Google search will lead us to articles, books, videos and podcasts offering us supportive help.

Much of the self-improvement information we read is based on a mind over matter technique or theory. Some are logical and straight forward; some require blind faith and an open mind. What works for one person may not work for another. There are a variety of approaches that can guide us toward optimal emotional wellness.

Many people get frustrated with self-help therapy because of the emphasis placed on tapping into our own energy and healing from within. We all have the ability to do that, and that is certainly the goal, but many of us feel blocked when we try, and then we wonder why none of these methods seem to work. Do not get me wrong; I would not write those types of articles if I did not believe in what I am talking about. I am certain that we are what we think and that we can change our lives by changing our thoughts. But it is not always so easy to accomplish on our own. We cannot always "think" our way out of the pain we are in.

Some issues are so deep seated that the years of clutter must be cleared out before attempting to gain power over our thoughts. Patterns established in childhood are hard-wired into our brain. It is very difficult to psyche ourselves out of thinking the way we have been conditioned to think for so long.

Sometimes we need a little help and that is perfectly fine. It does not represent weakness or mental illness as some people believe; quite the opposite. It takes courage, determination, and inner strength to choose optimal emotional wellness at any cost.

Once the cobwebs clear, our minds are free to embrace and focus on emotional wellness approaches or mind over matter techniques.

If none of the resources you have tried have helped you to feel better, do the most loving thing you can do for yourself. Break the vicious cycle of pain. Allow someone to help you.

Randi Fine is an internationally renowned narcissistic abuse expert and coach, and the author of the groundbreaking book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery Second Edition, the most comprehensive, most well researched, and most up-to-date book on this subject. In addition to helping survivors recognize their abuse and heal from it, this book teaches mental health professionals how to recognize and properly treat the associated abuse syndrome. She is also the author of Cliffedge Road: A Memoir, the first and only book to characterize the life-long progression of complications caused by narcissistic child abuse.

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