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Narcissistic Parents: Normal Rules Do Not Apply

Updated: Oct 27, 2022

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Narcissistic Parents

Normal Rules Do Not Apply

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

As an adult child dealing with narcissistic parents, normal rules do not apply. Confrontations do not work, reasoning does not work, standing up to them does not work, and family counseling does not work. Your feelings will never be validated. Your parent will never admit he has done anything to hurt you or has ever done anything wrong, period. The blame will be deflected back at you.

If your non-narcissistic parent is an enabler you cannot count on her to help you. She will probably defend her partner to the death, even if it means sacrificing her relationship with you. If she doesn’t defend him she will make excuses for him.

That leaves you with only two options for dealing with your narcissistic parents: measured contact or no contact/total estrangement. In either case you will need to enforce ironclad boundaries.

The decision whether or not to stay in contact becomes difficult when your narcissistic abuser is a sick, infirm or aged parent. That is a very personal choice that you will have to weigh.

No matter the case, no one can tell you what is b