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Narcissistic Abuse Survivors: Assaulted By The Ignorant

Updated: Oct 28, 2022

Image of the words shame and blame represent the experience of narcissistic abuse survivors

Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

Assaulted By The Ignorant

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

There will always be issues throughout our lives that challenge us as narcissistic abuse survivors. Though I coach other survivors and extensively write, speak and am highly knowledgeable about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I am not immune to its ugly assaults.

When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father people often tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and decide that I have chosen to afflict some sort of maliciously intended punishment on my poor defenseless parents. They cannot possibly understand how violating it is to have to defend the very people who nearly destroyed my life; people who would continue to wreak havoc in it if I chose to allow it. They have no idea what a difficult emotional process proceeded the decision to go no contact.

The judgment handed down by the clearly ignorant used to strike a raw nerve and immediately put me on the defensive. Though my stance is never validated and I always end up looking cold-blooded and hard-hearted, confident in my decision, I no longer feel the need to defend myself. People can conclude whatever they want. I am fully resolved.

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