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Giving Up Control

Updated: Oct 31, 2022

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Giving Up Control

Accepting What You Cannot Change and Going with the Flow

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert

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“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. “ ~Serenity Prayer~

Do you have trouble giving up control and accepting that which you cannot change? If so you are not alone.

We all find ourselves overwhelmed at times by situations we have no control over; situations we cannot change no matter how hard we try or what we do.

Resistance to acceptance creates negative feelings such as frustration, anger, jealousy and regret that interfere with our day to day peace of mind. It prevents us from forgetting or forgiving that which is beyond our control and moving forward.

We experience many things in our day to day lives that are beyond our control; the weather, natural disasters, traffic conditions, delays, illness, the economy, etc. These experiences may make us feel uncomfortable, we may not like them, but we grit our teeth, make our best effort to roll with the punches, and move forward.

It is easier, sometimes effortless, to relinquish control in situations that do not personally threaten us or trigger an uncomfortable emotional state. But when something in our life threatens our security, our tendency is to cling tightly to control.

Control is always rooted in fear and attached to an outcome we believe is best for us. We fear that if we relinquish control, it will resu