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Exposing the Narcissist During Divorce or Custody Mediation

Updated: Feb 9

How to Disarm a Narcissist During Divorce or Custody Mediation

Written by Randi Fine, Narcissistic Abuse Expert and Coach

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Guidance with Randi Fine

Have you ever noticed how the goal post keeps moving when dealing with a narcissist? The rules, expectations, behaviors, and conduct are consistently inconsistent.

Narcissists use random and varied tactics of fear and confusion to condition their targets. The objective is to keep them from ever achieving a state of equilibrium; to render them defenseless, compliant, and therefore controllable.

It is impossible to beat narcissists at their game. If you fight them you will lose. All attempts will be futile. You will be decimated every time.

You cannot beat them at their game but you can easily learn to play it. You can level the playing field once you understand what motivates them.

Narcissists are by far the most unoriginal species on the planet. They are not complex beings and are not motivated by the same things non-narcissistic people are; pain and pleasure. The false-self of narcissists does not allow them to feel either. Narcissists are motivated solely by adoration, admiration, and attention, otherwise known as supply or fuel. They spend every waking hour pursuing it. Tactics of manipulation, abuse and control are used to solicit it, maintain it and possess it.