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What You Can Learn From the Difficult People in Your Life

9 Things You Can Learn From the Difficult People in Your Life

Written by Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

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It’s likely that you deal with at least a few people that know how to push your buttons. However, you can learn a lot from difficult people. Challenging situations present opportunities for learning and growth. Are you making optimal use of the difficult people in your life?

What if the people you enjoyed the least actually taught you some important concepts? How powerful would that be? Would it justify the frustration a bit? Here are a few ways to make the best of the situation; even using it to your advantage.

  1. Learn patience. Whenever you’re stuck dealing with someone you’d rather avoid, use the opportunity to practice being patient.

  2. Learn to manage your emotions. You likely find that your mood and emotions take a turn for the worse when dealing with certain people in your life. It’s a great time to work on maintaining your composure in a stressful situation. Take advantage of their presence and use it as an opportunity to hone your skills.

  3. Learn about yourself. Why does a particular person drive you crazy? In many cases, you’ll find that the people you dislike possess c